kc bob: Job and The Grieving Process

Three years ago this month I shared a series of devotions on the book of Job and how his process of grieving the loss of his ten children is so relatable today. Following are links to those 31 daily meditations.

Naked I came. Naked shall I return :: utterances from a very numb person
The Lord gave. The Lord has taken away :: a cloaked accusation of sorts
It may be that my children :: worry, on the surface, is not problematic
Shall we not receive evil? :: clichés keep us stuck in denial
Job opened his mouth :: after seven days of sitting shiva, Job can no longer contain his hurt
Why? :: sometimes questions keep us stuck in our pain
What I dread befalls me :: suffering loss sometimes produces a fear of future pain
He wounds but he binds up? :: a damaging theology that stifles the grieving process
The arrows of the Almighty are in me :: blessed denial fades making way for intense grieving emotions
Does God pervert justice? :: religious people sometimes feel a need to play detective with our pain
Now you have destroyed me altogether :: bad theology can create toxicity in the one who us grieving
You will forget your misery :: advice sometimes only angers people in pain and keeps them stuck in grief
I am a laughingstock to my friends :: all Job could feel was a sense of finger pointing
Though he slay me, I will hope in him :: such bargaining is further evidence that Job is grieving
If a man dies, shall he live again? :: the death of a loved one causes us to contemplate our own mortality
What is man, that he can be pure? :: there is a temptation to blame victims when bad things happen
My pain is not assuaged :: sometimes training in church causes us to think in simplistic clichés
My spirit is broken :: we need to step into our pain to release it
Why are we stupid in your sight? :: "being there" for a grieving person can be awkward but very helpful
I know that my Redeemer lives :: without hope it is so easy for grief to stall in despair and depression
Look at me and be appalled :: in great loss our mind goes to dark places
If ... Then ... :: the intense pain of grief can never be eased by rules, principles or formulas.
He is not there ... I do not perceive him :: a person can feel so alone. sometimes God seems absent
Oh, that I were as in the months of old :: dealing with the past is a normal and essential phase of grief
I cry to you for help and you do not answer me :: grieving is complicated by unanswered prayers
He burned with anger :: we learn to grieve because we have to
The LORD answered Job out of the whirlwind :: all I hear is God asking Job to trust him
I lay my hand on my mouth :: there is a time to be still and know that He is God
Will you even put me in the wrong? :: it is so easy to lash out at God when we suffer great loss
I have uttered what I did not understand :: only God can bring beauty out of the ash heap of our grief
The Lord blessed the latter days of Job :: sometimes we get a second chance at life after grief