Redefining Marriage

In this article twice divorced Halle Berry said she has no plans to wed her current boyfriend/baby daddy Gabriel Aubry. She says:

"What Gabriel and I have decided is that
we will just redefine marriage for ourselves."

I wonder what that phrase "redefine marriage" means to Halle? What does it mean to you? What I hear is an echo of the deep pain and disappointment over two failed marriages. It is like she is saying, "I have twice followed the marriage rules and my heart got broken. I don't want to follow those same rules again". I think that this phenomenon of "commited couples" having babies is something that will continue to confront us as many try to redefine marriage and redefine our culture.