People bond romantically to others by engaging in the three T's. They spend time together (especially by being together for long hours in private or semi-private situations). They talk at length directly to one another about the deeper and deepest contents of their hearts--even spiritual things. And...they touch one another in affectionate or intimate ways. The simple and obvious plan for slowing down and/or pacing a romantic relationship, until the proper time for engagement and marriage has come, is to place deliberate limits and boundaries on relating to another person in these specific ways.Michael is a great dad with wonderful children. I recommend the reading of his Lessons of Life as a Dad series to all parents.
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Romantic Bonding: Time, Talking and Touching
My good friend and co-worker Michael has another stellar post in his Lessons of Life as a Dad series. Here is an excerpt from his most recent post:
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I am a Dad with a two year old son. Intimacy between us natural and seems to meet a very basic need. Seems the best way to let him know I really do love him. He is super affectionate with me and I encourage him in this way. The time will soon come where he will learn the macho rules of the world but we will always have a special bond built on these early days. Of couse I do not remember my relationship with my own dad when I was two but believe he was not as affectionate with me. The years I do remember, I will admit not being very lovable. There was a gap which we had to bridge in adulthood. Time will tell but I believe intimacy today, with my own son, will help us through adolesence. I will surely miss these early days, as his needs will change; alas, mine will not. Life is bittersweet.
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I'm sorry not to comment on this earlier, but this was very helpful to me. Thank you, Bob.
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